Fred Luskin and I discuss the whole process of forgiveness and getting over the past. I really trust his opinion – he’s a Professor at Stanford and has led forgiveness work for 9/11 victims, employees at major tech companies, and survivors of genocide.
In this episode we chat ...
- The SKILL of forgiveness and how to improve it
- Why our emotions linger
- When not to forgive and more
- Intense forgiveness experiences
It wasn’t the easiest conversation: we discussed some of my old grudges and lingering emotions. Forgive me for the self-focus in this episode, but I hope that in hearing some of my struggles you’ll take up a few tactics that can help you with yours.
I walked away with a major takeaway: Forgiveness is a skill you can develop, and you do it for yourself.
If you want to apply these insights to your own life, here’s an exercise:
- Write about a relationship where you have felt hurt or held a grudge. What makes it difficult to get over this experience? (10 min)
- Write your guess as to some steps you can take to forgive
- Listen to the episode and take note of which strategies you may want to adopt
- List 2-3 action items / things you’ve learned
- Now do it! Or schedule the action items into your calendar